Ex-Gay

New Ex-Gay 'Documentary' For Sunday School

Ex-gay activists are out with yet another tool to encourage people to consider “leaving homosexuality” and rejecting the “gay lifestyle.”

The “documentary” features ex-gay activists including Anne Paulk, DL Foster, David Kyle Foster, Linda Jernigan, Jeff Johnston, Robert Gagnon and Michael Brown.

Newly released documentary "Such Were Some of You" confronts the rising tide of popular opinion by chronicling the stories of 29 former homosexual men and women who say that Jesus Christ has transformed their lives. Experts in psychology, (Dr. Julie Hamilton), biblical scholarship (Dr. Robert Gagnon) and ministry (Dr. Neil Anderson) add their voice to the claim that people have been leaving homosexuality for millennia.

Created to be used in Sunday School classes, support groups and other group settings, "Such Were Some of You" has been designed as a discipleship and equipping tool for the Body of Christ. The "witnesses to change" describe how they developed homosexual confusion, what the gay lifestyle was really like, how Jesus Christ set them free and the many ways that He has been healing and transforming their lives ever since. Participants include ex-gays from numerous ethnic backgrounds and age brackets, including one former gay activist who dramatically declares at one point, "I am free!"

According to one description, the film includes “[f]rank comments about sex including comments about same sex attractions but nothing graphic, comments about masturbation, orgies, sexual abuse; talk of one night stands; watching porn including gay porn; man and woman kiss; a comment about having sex by one's self; talk of adult shops; comment about being a male prostitute; a comment about being a stripper.”

Janet Parshall Says Satan Is Behind Opposition To Ex-Gay Therapy

On her radio show last week, Religious Right broadcaster Janet Parshall praised ex-gay movement leaders like Anne Paulk, her guest on the program, for helping gays and lesbians “leave the homosexual lifestyle.”

Parshall said that Satan is responsible for increasing resistance to ex-gay therapy: “Anytime Satan can try to trample underfoot the truth that is the cross, he’ll do it, including telling people that they can’t change. You, however, are my expert witness because you changed, as did I, so that really should be the end of the discussion.”

Paulk argued that opponents of ex-gay therapy are “abusing kids” and making sure the government begins “sacrificing our youth to HIV/AIDS, syphilis and gonorrhea.”

While discussing the effectiveness of ex-gay therapy, neither mentioned Anne Paulk’s ex-husband, John Paulk, a former leader of the ex-gay movement who now says he is gay and that his sexual orientation never changed. Instead, Anne Paulk told Parshall that ex-gay therapy is just like having a diet or battling a drug abuse.

“When it comes to overeating, I can get that under control, I can become the size my body was meant to be, or I can feed it more and more and more and more and get to that 700 lbs. stage, that is unfortunately humanly possible,” she said. “If we take that and apply it to something like drug addiction, it is much harder according to the stats to overcome drug addiction than it is to leave behind homosexuality.”

Anti-LGBT Author Calls Trans People 'Pathological Narcissists'

On yesterday’s edition of “Sandy Rios in the Morning,” anti-LGBT activist and lecturer Dale O’Leary discussed her book, “The Gender Agenda,” which is about the purportedly harmful implications of transgender rights.

O’Leary told Rios that transgender identity in trans women is the result of a lack of “masculine” authority in childhood and an unhealthy attachment to mothers, which in turn makes “these people covet something [femininity] that they don’t have and can never get.”

The pursuit of a gender transition, Rios agreed, is motivated by envy and is wholly self-serving, failing to account for “what happens to the family, what happens to the wife, what happens to the children” of trans women in this scenario. O’Leary could only conclude that transgender people are inherently “pathological narcissists” who disregard the consequences their actions have on others to fulfill their vain desires.

O’Leary lamented that transgender people are sometimes encouraged by parents, doctors and psychologists who do not insist on correcting gender-nonconforming behavior and let children explore their own identity instead. She also blamed recent bans on ex-gay conversion therapy for minors in states like California and New Jersey for the growing acceptance of trans identity.

“Not giving these children therapy, when they are so clearly symptomatic of gender identity disorder, is child abuse,” she said. Instead of providing them with the help they apparently need, medical practitioners who don’t force gender conformity onto children are “conspiring with parents to keep the child locked in a mental disorder.”

Peter LaBarbera Tells Michael Sam To Get Ex-Gay Therapy Or Be Reviled

Americans For Truth About Homosexuality’s Peter LaBarbera has sent a letter to Michael Sam asking him to consider ex-gay therapy, citing the HIV/AIDS rate among African Americans.

LaBarbera also warned Sam that by coming out of the closet and “celebrating homosexuality as normative,” he will face “notoriety among millions of us.”

LaBarbera has previously urged Sam to seek ex-gay therapy and lamented that he was “forced” to watch Sam kiss his boyfriend on television.

Michael, do we have to tell you that, especially with your current publicity, you are a role model because of your athletic prowess, but since “coming out” you are also modeling a lifestyle that the cost for those living it, has been unpublicized but appalling—as it has for society. The troubling fact is minorities are suffering most and in growing numbers. The evidence:

• Black youth–your fans among them–ages 13-24 are twice as likely to get HIV/AIDS than those of other ethnic groups.
• 94-95 percent of all HIV cases in 2011 among boys and young men ages 13-24 were linked to homosexual sex, the CDC reports.
• Youth 13-24 incur 26 percent of new HIV/AIDS infections each year.
• An estimated 60 percent of 13-24 year-olds are unaware that they’re infected with HIV; such ignorance can be a death sentence.
• Black men having sex with men (MSM) accounted in 2010 for 39 percent of all HIV/AIDS diagnoses.

Secondary to the toll in pain and death among MSM is the drain on U.S. medical and financial resources; for example, anti-viral drugs, which can prolong MSM life about 20 years, cost over $24,000 per year. They do prolong life but must be taken scrupulously or the MSM becomes infectious. To treat an HIV/AIDS victim costs from $400,000 to $600,000 from infection to death. In total, the HIV/AIDS epidemic costs the country about $5 billion per year, says CDC Director Dr. Tom Freiden.

Believe it or not, no one is born “gay”; molestation, emotional deprivation, parental or peer rejection, or other traumatic factors can foster same-sex attraction–but many men and women have managed it, diminished it, or eliminated it altogether. [See these heartwarming ex-"gay" testimonies.] Many accomplished this through Reparative Therapy and counseling, despite the relentless, unwarranted condemnation of and campaign against both by self-serving “gay” activists.

What we hope for from you, Michael, is that you don’t make your feelings, well-publicized as they have been, your claim to fame. Your achievements on the football field will earn you a legacy you can be proud of; your “coming out” as one celebrating homosexuality as normative can earn you only regret, as well as notoriety among millions of us.

AFA: People Who Couldn't Pray Away The Gay Weren't Trying Hard Enough

Ed Vitagliano of the American Family Association writes in this month’s edition of the AFA Journal that while he knows many people have “prayed endlessly for God to remove their same-sex attractions — to no avail,” that is because they simply haven’t called upon the power of God “to gain mastery over [their] impulses.”

Vitagliano cites “the reality of ‘ex-gay’ people” as proof that “there are clearly many who have left the lifestyle.”

He notes that while ex-gays have “reoriented their affections to the opposite sex,” nonetheless “temptation remains.”

The Bible makes clear that homosexual acts are sinful. Yet what about a same sex orientation apart from sexual activity? Is it also sinful?

The answer appears to be yes, just as a desire to fornicate is a sin. In Romans 1:26-27, Paul speaks of the homosexual’s “degrading passions” or desires themselves. He also mentions that they “burned in their desire toward one another” and then committed “indecent acts.”



Perhaps the person born blind will cry out to the Lord for a miracle, and sometimes God answers and heals. But if we are honest, most of the time God does not seem inclined – whatever the reason – to perform that miracle.

Likewise, countless people who self-identify as homosexual claim to have prayed endlessly for God to remove their same sex attractions – to no avail.

This is not the whole story, of course. Despite the media’s refusal to consider the reality of “ex-gay” people, there are clearly many who have left the lifestyle. While temptation remains, they have – by God’s grace – reoriented their affections to the opposite sex.



On the other hand, like the blind or paralyzed person who cries out to God for physical healing but does not receive it, Christians who still struggle with same sex attraction may find themselves similarly frustrated.

For some reason, God often responds to prayer requests as He did with Paul: “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9). The battle goes on. The Christian must fight against his fallen nature as the Israelites fought against the continual encroachments of the Philistines.

What, then, do we say to the gay man and the lesbian? What are they to do with their brokenness? First, if they remain defiant in it, they will eternally perish. Yet this is no different than the drunkard or the fornicator or the liar or the idolater. All who remain in their rebellion are damned.



Can a person be a Christian and still struggle against same sex attractions? Yes. When we become followers of Christ, we continue to battle the flesh in all its permutations (Galatians 5:16-17). But we have the power of Christ on our side, and we are called to gain mastery over the impulses that have plagued us, even if the impulses themselves remain. Christ will lead us in victory if we will receive His grace daily and obey Him.

Not Even The Texas GOP Chairman Will Defend His Party's Support For Ex-Gay Therapy

While Rick Perry tried his best to justify the Texas Republican Party’s recent embrace of ex-gay therapy by making an awkward comparison of gay people to alcoholics, the chairman of the state party refuses to mount a defense of the controversial resolution.

In fact, Texas GOP chairman Steve Munisteri says he opposes ex-gay therapy, and criticized Eagle Forum activist Cathie Adams for inserting the ex-gay language in the platform.

“And I just make the point for anybody that thinks that may be the possibility: Do they think they can take a straight person to a psychiatrist and turn them gay?” Munisteri said.

Munisteri said he’s not the only one who opposes this plank in the party’s platform.

“My emails and phone calls to the office are running overwhelmingly opposed to that plank in the platform,” Munisteri said.

Munisteri said a group of Republicans at the convention led by his predecessor, Cathie Adams, were able to pass the reparative therapy resolution using a parliamentary trick.

“Because the way the platform works, once somebody calls the question on the platform it’s a parliamentary maneuver," Munisteri said. "The delegates are really forced to pass the platform as is, because if you don’t there is no platform.”

Ex-Gay Group Praises Texas GOP, Compares Anti-Gay Activists To Opponents Of The Ku Klux Klan

Writing on behalf of the ex-gay group Voice of the Voiceless on Monday, DL Foster praised Texas Republicans for adopting a resolution in support of ex-gay therapy.

Foster, likening the GOP’s ex-gay resolution to the fight against anti-black discrimination at the hands of groups like the Ku Klux Klan, attacked “the anti-American actions of liberals who continue to deny rights and suppress hope for potential millions of Americans seeking avenues to change sexual and emotional dysfunctions.”

He even claimed that prohibitions on ex-gay therapy for minors, such as laws recently passed in California and New Jersey, would prevent survivors of sexual abuse “from getting much needed counseling” and encourage “suicidal” thoughts.

Bucking the trend to punish citizens who seek counseling for unwanted same sex attractions —and the professionals who want to help them— the Texas GOP took an unusual step and voted to affirm therapy equality. The move would have made African American Texas GOP pioneer Norris Wright Cuney (1846-1898) proud. When Cuney and other African Americans were building the party in Texas, passion to build a better social and economic future for African Americans was the catalyst that birthed their innovative drive. At that time, there existed no promises of “affirmative action” to lull them into complacency. What they did face was the consistent attacks of the Democrat-led Klan who conspired at every turn to block access to the well being [sic] of black American citizens.

There was strong and widespread support for passage of the resolution among Texas conservatives, perhaps fed up with the anti-American actions of liberals who continue to deny rights and suppress hope for potential millions of Americans seeking avenues to change sexual and emotional dysfunctions. Rape, molestation and sexual abuse have been at the root of much sexual confusion. The New Jersey legislation was dubbed the “Jerry Sandusky Victimization Act”, because opponents contended it would prevent victims of abuse and molestation who subsequently developed homosexual inclinations, from getting much needed counseling.



State legislatures must understand that its immoral to enshrine into law deprivation of therapy equality. No American should have to go day after day tortured and suicidal because he or she has been told there are no options and no choices for them. LGBT Americans have the freedom to seek counseling to affirm their homosexual behavior and its big business. The San Francisco based Gaylesta, a “GLBTQ Psychotherapy Association” lists some 250 mental health professionals available to homosexuals. Why are EXGLBT Americans treated differently? Why give some unlimited options for personal happiness but deprive others of even one hopeful avenue of change? Why is the fate of their happiness and the happiness of their families placed in the hands of people who despise them? Aren’t all Americans guaranteed the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness?

This isn’t empty complaining, but the stark reality that in America homosexual activists are pursuing legal tools to punish people who simply want freedom from a crippling sexual and emotional condition.

Rick Perry, Supporter Of Federal Marriage Amendment, Says Federal Government Should Have No Role In Marriage

Texas Gov. Rick Perry attempted to dodge questions today about his comparison of homosexuality to alcohol abuse, telling CNBC that he will leave the efficacy of ex-gay therapy — recently endorsed by the Texas GOP — “to the psychologists and the doctors.”

Perry also told host Joe Kernan that he “respects” decisions to legalize same-sex marriage in states like New York. “This conversation has always been about states’ rights on this host of issue” and about rebuking “this idea that Washington should be given total and full ability to make these decisions,” he said.

Of course, when he was running for president, Perry supported the federal government intervening on same-sex marriage, endorsing the Federal Marriage Amendment.

But the Texas governor was for the right of states to pass marriage equality laws before he was against it and then for it again.

“Our friends in New York six weeks ago passed a statute that said marriage can be between two people of the same sex. And you know what? That’s New York, and that’s their business, and that’s fine with me,” he said in July of 2011. “If you believe in the 10th Amendment, stay out of their business.”

Now it seems that Perry has reversed himself once again and is going back to his original position…or, maybe he just doesn’t understand how the Federal Marriage Amendment would work.

Rick Perry's Comparison Of Homosexuality To Alcoholism Is Nothing New From The Anti-Gay Right

Surprise! Yesterday, the same Republican politician who tried to save his foundering presidential campaign with a gay-baiting TV ad defended ex-gay therapy and compared homosexuality to alcohol abuse.

Speaking at a summit in California, Texas Gov. Rick Perry responded to questions about the Texas Republican Party’s endorsement of ex-gay therapy in its new far-right platform by arguing that homosexuality is like alcoholism: “Whether or not you feel compelled to follow a particular lifestyle or not, you have the ability to decide not to do that. I may have the genetic coding that I’m inclined to be an alcoholic, but I have the desire not to do that, and I look at the homosexual issue the same way.”

Perry is far from the only Republican figure to have expressed this view.

Another former GOP presidential candidate who is also considering a second run, Gov. Mike Huckabee, likened homosexuality to alcoholism in a 2009 interview with Esquire:

Huckabee says he doesn't know if homosexuality is inborn, but he believes you can control the behavior. He compares homosexuality to obesity or alcoholism: "Some people have a predisposition to alcoholism. Does that mean they're not responsible for getting drunk? No."

Fellow 2012 presidential contender Rick Santorum cited “people who were gay and lived a gay lifestyle and aren’t anymore” as a reason to oppose gay rights. Michele Bachmann’s husband heads a clinic that practices ex-gay therapy. Ted Cruz’s father and political adviser, Rafael Cruz, has defended ex-gay therapy as legitimate “biblical” counseling, adding, “sexual orientation is a choice, it’s not a civil right.”

Republican National Committeeman Dave Agema recently got in trouble with his own party after he, among other offensive remarks, compared gay people to alcoholics. So did top Religious Right leaders Mat Staver and Tony Perkins. Robert Jeffress, a Texas pastor close to Perry, also “equates being gay with alcoholism or a genetic proclivity toward violence,” according to the Dallas-based D Magazine.

Despite story after story about the GOP’s purported shift on gay rights, the party is still mired in anti-gay bigotry.

Janet Porter Wants Republicans 'Nationwide' To Adopt Texas GOP's Ex-Gay Resolution

Janet Porter of Faith 2 Action is so happy about the Republican Party of Texas’s decision to embrace ex-gay therapy as part of its new far-right platform that she wants similar language endorsing the pseudo-science “adopted nationwide”:

She might find allies in Tony Perkins and David Barton, members of the 2012 Republican National Committee platform committee who are both vocal supporters of ex-gay therapy.

Barton, a former vice chairman of the Texas Republican Party, bragged in 2012 of getting 70 of his 71 resolutions approved by the RNC, and Perkins released a statement yesterday praising the Texas GOP’s ex-gay resolution.

In 2012, Perkins claimed that his Family Research Council joined forces with Eagle Forum to shape the national GOP platform. Eagle Forum is the same group that successfully added the ex-gay language to the Texas GOP platform.

Anne Paulk: Homosexuality Is Like Being Stuck In A 'Roach Motel'

Right-wing radio broadcaster Linda Harvey brought “ex-gay” activist Anne Paulk on the air this past weekend to discuss the impermanence of being or identifying as LGBT.

A repeat guest on the “Mission: America” program, Paulk spent half an hour hawking the work of her organization, Restored Hope Network, which is a collection of interdenominational ministries that promote “conversion therapy.”

Harvey was all ears as Paulk charged that LGBT people are responsible for “a great deal of grief” in their families, and asserted that the decision to come out of the closet “is like a death knell of all the future hopes of a parent.”

Paulk then compared identifying as gay to being trapped in a “roach motel,” which might lead people to “consider suicide.”

Unfortunately, not everyone could be successfully “saved” by the Restored Hope Network.

Texas GOP Embraces Discredited Ex-Gay Therapy

We reported back in April that Eagle Forum, a staunchly anti-gay Religious Right group, announced that it would pressure the Texas GOP to back ex-gay therapy and other anti-gay measures in its party platform.

The Texas GOP convention, which banned conservative gay rights groups from participating, appears to have agreed on including ex-gay advocacy as part of its platform, according to a draft of the platform obtained by the Houston Chronicle:

We support the definition of marriage as a God-ordained, legal and moral commitment only between a natural man and a natural woman.

We support withholding jurisdiction from the Federal Courts in cases involving family law, especially any changes in the definition of marriage.



We oppose the assault on marriage by judicial activists.



Homosexuality must not be presented as an acceptable alternative lifestyle, in public policy, nor should family be redefined to include homosexual couples. We believe there should be no granting of special legal entitlements or creation of special status for homosexual behavior, regardless of state of origin.

Additionally, we oppose any criminal or civil penalties against those who oppose homosexuality out of faith, conviction, or belief in traditional values. We recognize the legitimacy and value of counseling which offers reparative therapy and treatment to patients who are seeking escape from the homosexual lifestyle. No laws or executive orders shall be imposed to limit or restrict access to this type of therapy. (emphasis added)

BarbWire Pundit Says Transgender Boy Is Possessed By Demons

Writing today for BarbWire, ex-gay activist Matt Moore concedes that he does not “understand what people with gender identity issues experience,” but is still more than comfortable declaring that transgender people, specifically the six-year-old transgender boy Ryland Whittington, are possessed by the Devil:

With all that said, I get angry because of stories about kids like Ryland. Angry at people. Angry as sin. Angry at Satan.

I am not the type of person that believes Satan is hiding behind every rock, but I do think that there is a demonic element at play when little girls actually start to think they’re little boys, or little boys actually start to think they’re little girls. Actually, I’m sure that demons are all up in that. God created men and women to reflect His image and Satan is all about distorting God’s image. How better a way to do that than to get the image bearers to go against their own physical and biological make up? So-called transgender-ism is a literal rejection of God’s creation and image. Satan loves it.

But Satan is not only to blame for this confusion. We are too.



I hope that in the days to come — where sexual and gender identity confusion is going to abound more and more — followers of Jesus will be just as vocal with the truth as Satan and the world are with lies. I hope we won’t begin to give up on people or on our culture. I hope we won’t begin to disbelieve in God’s transforming mercy, grace and love available in Christ. I hope we won’t believe that He’s done working in the world and that we’re just here to “wait it out” among all the evil and confusion until he comes. I hope we won’t cower down, shrivel up and shrink back. I hope we don’t get hateful and bitter. I hope we don’t start pronouncing condemnation and judgment instead of proclaiming the gospel of Jesus.

WorldNetDaily Explains How To Gay-Proof Your Kids

WorldNetDaily published a column today by Philip Irvin on “tactics for helping inoculate kids against homosexuality.”

Irvin runs a rudimentary website called Imploding Gay Power: No Way Born Gay, where he advises parents to tell their kids about “the absurdity of the ‘born gay’ idea,” which he posits will then spread around the child’s school until nobody is gay anymore. He also advises readers not to trust scientific studies on sexual orientation or the claims made by gay people themselves.

His claims also rely on ex-gay canards about homosexuality being a choice: “A choice becomes a habit, then a compulsion, and then an addiction.”

It might appear that the best way to deploy the tool of logical reasoning would be to share this information with pro-family activists or with friends. But what would we expect them to do? Use it to argue with gay activists? Nobody enjoys arguing with gay activists or appreciates being given tools with the implied injunction to enter the fray.

Rather, the targeted audience for this material is someone who would use it to protect rather than confront. These would be parents, uncles, grandparents, or anyone involved with youth, particularly parents whose kids will be exposed to the increasingly powerful and seductive voices of homosexuality. These adults can use this material to show their children the absurdity of the “born gay” idea.

When Dad shares this information with his son Johnny who may not be at risk of believing he is gay, Johnny is going to share this with his friend Sam who is at risk, and together they will talk to Bill. Eventually, this is going to find its way to the school principal who is forced to confirm that disseminating this material does not constitute bullying. This will lead to the discussions at the Gay Students Club, whose members are powerless to refute these arguments. Eventually, support for the gay agenda is crippled with the collapse of the “born gay” fallacy.

PFOX Hails Parents Who Helped Son 'Overcome' 'Destructive' Homosexuality

The recently released spring newsletter [PDF] of Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays and Gays (PFOX) includes an essay by Steve and Janice Graham, who describe their efforts to rid their son of his “destructive” homosexuality.

Quoting ex-gay therapist Charles Socarides’ claim that coming out amounts “to a kind of murder of the family,” the Grahams write that they believed their son is gay because he started “looking at body builders online” and had “personality traits (high intelligence, curiosity, overconfidence, and a tendency to overanalyze) [that] made him more susceptible to porn and homosexuality.”

“To us, homosexuality is a deviation, a disorder, a willful rebellion, or a combination of these,” they write, adding that their son’s ex-gay therapist told him to “tell us every homosexual feeling or thought he experienced each day.”

Eventually, the son “took responsibility for his wrong choices,” “put the problem behind him” and “regained his old, happy nature again. He whistled as he walked in the door for a visit—with a bounce in his step.”

The newsletter also features articles on Mother’s Day and President Obama’s supposed attempt “to ‘queer’ America” and promote “homosexual addicts.”

When our son admitted his problems with homosexuality, we took him to see a psychiatrist—but it was too upsetting for him. He thought we believed he was crazy. We didn’t know what to think. We were in shock—and a bit of denial.

In his book, A Freedom Too Far, Dr. Charles Socarides describes how we felt during this time: “Announcements like this that our kids have suddenly decided [or in our son’s case, become convinced] they’re gay amount to a kind of murder of the family. Parents can’t imagine things that are worse. It’s something like a premature Alzheimer’s disease; there’s no more real communication, no more sharing of experience, now, or ever. Some great parents can say that this is okay. But, deep down, they know they are deluding themselves. This can mean the end of hopes and dreams for their kids—that they will some day experience the extreme joys that have been repeated over and over again since civilization began, that they will become parents. And make them grandparents. To know that this isn’t going to happen—well, it’s a sadness.”



Years later, our son’s therapist concluded he wouldn’t have struggled with homosexual tendencies had it not been for the pervasive homosexual influence of the internet. In other words, he was fed a gay identity. It began with the power of suggestion—by our son looking at body builders online. Having endured a lot of teasing from his peers, he was curious about his male body. He wondered if he had what it took to be a “real man.”



It was hard finding the right person to help our son. We had many false starts. Finally, our church connected us with Dr. Jeff Robinson, a professional specializing in helping people overcome unwanted homosexuality.



Our son’s personality traits (high intelligence, curiosity, overconfidence, and a tendency to overanalyze) made him more susceptible to porn and homosexuality. He was a heterosexual who had “learned” homosexuality.



Many parents today back off when their child tells them they’re “gay.” This never occurred to us. To us, homosexuality is a deviation, a disorder, a willful rebellion, or a combination of these. It isn’t anyone’s true self. As Michael Glatze notes, “The whole gay identity is completely a fabrication. You’re not a homosexual; you’re a heterosexual with a homosexual problem. It’s literally all in your mind.”

In “Seven Ways to Recruit-Proof Your Child,” Scott Lively writes “it’s never too late for a child to recover his innate heterosexual orientation.” He cautions: “it will take much more work than taking preventive action would have.”

Dr. Robinson instructed our son to go home after each session and tell us what he learned and was supposed to work on. He was to tell us every homosexual feeling or thought he experienced each day.



He took responsibility for his wrong choices and deeply desired to develop integrity—to be the good, honest man everyone believed he was. His therapist told us that deception—lying and misrepresenting himself—was the most personally destructive choice.



In time, he regained his old, happy nature again. He whistled as he walked in the door for a visit—with a bounce in his step. He made his own appointments with Dr. Robinson and kept up his job, school, extracurricular activities, and a wholesome, growing social life. He made all his remaining sessions with his therapist—and stays in touch to this day.

The more time our son spent apart from homosexual porn, the more distanced he became from homosexual urges. When destructive thought patterns hit, he now had tools to deal with them and move forward—which he does to this day. In time, he felt confident he had successfully put the problem behind him.

Robert Knight Likens Ex-Gay Therapy To Alcoholics Anonymous, Weight Watchers

Washington Times columnist Robert Knight is upset that the Southern Poverty Law Center has decided to “persecute” the ex-gay therapy organization Jews Offering New Alternatives for Healing (JONAH) by suing it for consumer fraud.

Knight claims that suing JONAH over its offer to turn gay people straight – a practice discredited by all of the country’s major counseling and psychiatric groups – is like suing Alcoholics Anonymous or Weight Watchers.

“If the SPLC’s argument is valid that all temptations must cease for counseling to be legitimate,” Knight writes, “Alcoholics Anonymous, Weight Watchers and other groups assisting with behavioral change should be charged with fraud because some clients fall off the wagon.”

The Alabama-based SPLC has a project called Teaching Tolerance, with a website and print periodical of that name aimed at educators. Much of it deals with countering bullies.

Yet the SPLC itself, with a $281 million endowment and scores of attorneys, is the consummate bully in a case involving a tiny New Jersey organization.

Jews Offering New Alternatives for Healing (JONAH) counsels people with unwanted desires, including same-sex attraction. The SPLC’s lawsuit contends that the group is committing fraud under New Jersey’s consumer law.

Their argument? People are born with same-sex desires, they cannot possibly change in any way and, therefore, any counseling to reduce temptations or re-channel them toward the opposite sex is fraudulent. This preposterous claim is based on the same thinking behind laws in New Jersey and California that punish licensed counselors for trying to help parents deal with their children’s unwanted same-sex desires.

The SPLC’s lawsuit, like those laws, violates the basic right to self-determination. They are dictating that a person cannot seek licensed help in overcoming an unwanted temptation. The SPLC has trotted out some disaffected people who tried counseling and say it failed. They ignore voluminous evidence of people who say they were helped.

If the SPLC’s argument is valid that all temptations must cease for counseling to be legitimate, then Alcoholics Anonymous, Weight Watchers and other groups assisting with behavioral change should be charged with fraud because some clients fall off the wagon.

The SPLC is throwing the kitchen sink at this for a reason: If they win, it will set the stage for outlawing all counseling that the left does not like, including counseling by clergy. Jesus said, “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you.” That’s never easy, especially when someone is trying to use the law to abolish God-given moral standards and persecute good people who are trying to help others.

Newsweek Profiles John Paulk's Move From Ex-Gay Poster Boy To Movement Critic

Newsweek is out today with a story on John Paulk, who was featured on the magazine’s cover as an ex-gay success story back in 1998, and other ex-gay activists who have since recanted and left the movement.

Newsweek’s story reveals the personal struggles that many ex-gay leaders faced, even as they aided a movement that was harmful to gay people, particularly minors. The ex-gay movement, after all, was a product of a larger Religious Right push to undermine the claims of gay rights advocates by depicting homosexuality as a choice or a set of feelings that could be easily “fixed.”

Paulk’s ex-wife, Anne Paulk, however, continues to toe the ex-gay line.

Far-right groups including the Family Research Council and the American Family Association pooled $600,000 to place ads promising the effectiveness of reparative therapy in The New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, and the Chicago Tribune. Anne and John Paulk smiled from full-page newspaper spreads.

In front of the crowds and cameras, Paulk was the image of certainty. But backstage, he was faltering. More than that, he knew he was lying.

“It’s funny, for those of us that worked in it, behind closed doors, we knew we hadn't really changed,” he says. “Our situations had changed—we had gotten married, and some of us had children, so our roles had changed. I was a husband and father; that was my identity. And the homosexuality had been tamped down. But you can only push it down for so long, and it would eke its way out every so often.”

When Paulk walked into that gay bar in 2000, someone recognized him and phoned Wayne Besen, a gay rights activist who now runs the nonprofit Truth Wins Out. Besen rushed over and snapped a picture. In the ensuing scandal, Paulk initially claimed he just went in to use the bathroom, and didn’t know it was a gay bar. But really, he was aching just to be in a welcoming environment.

“I went to a gay bar—not looking for sex, which is what people thought—but because I was missing my community. I was looking to sit in a place with people I felt comfortable with, and that was other gay people,” Paulk says. Though he continued to take speaking engagements, by 2003, he was burned out.

“I would be in hotel rooms, and I would be on my face sobbing and crying on the bed,” he says. “I felt like a liar and a hypocrite. Having to go out and give hope to these people. I was in despair knowing that what I was telling them was not entirely honest. I couldn’t do it anymore.”

Even in its earliest days, Exodus’s philosophy—that same-sex attraction meant a person was “broken” and could be “fixed”—was undermined by the reality of its members’ actions. Michael Bussee and Gary Cooper, two of the co-founders, left the movement in 1979 to be in a committed relationship with one another. (Bussee has spent the decades since actively fighting Exodus’s message.) John Evans, one of the founders of Love in Action (LIA), an early ex-gay ministry that helped establish Exodus in 1974, left LIA after a friend committed suicide over his distress at being unable to change his sexual orientation. "They're destroying people's lives,” Evans told The Wall Street Journal in 1993. “They're living in a fantasy world.” (LIA has since changed its name to Restoration Path.)



First came the photo of Paulk in the gay bar. Then in 2003, Michael Johnson, founder of “National Coming Out of Homosexuality Day,” was revealed to have infected men he’d met on the Internet with HIV through unprotected sex. John Smid, who joined LIA in 1986 and eventually became its executive director, left the organization in 2008. Three years later, Smid wrote on his blog that he "never met a man who experienced a change from homosexual to heterosexual," and that reorientation is impossible, because being gay is intrinsic.

Then it crumbled further. In 2012, psychologist Robert Spitzer—one of the leaders of the successful push in the 1970s for the American Psychiatric Association to declassify homosexuality as a disease—retracted a controversial study, published in 2003, often cited by the ex-gay community that had concluded some “highly motivated” individuals could change their sexual orientation. Spitzer wrote an apology to LGBT people who “wasted time and energy” on reparative therapy.



Lastly, there’s the National Association for Research & Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH), founded in 1992 by psychologist Joseph Nicolosi. NARTH considers itself the foremost secular proponent of conversion therapy; it counts hundreds of well-credentialed mental health professionals among its ranks and has issued a number of white papers on the subject. It too, however, has suffered in the public eye in recent years: In 2007, NARTH therapist Chris Austin was convicted of sexually assaulting a client, and sentenced to 10 years in prison; in 2010, NARTH board member George Rekers was found to have employed a male prostitute as a companion for a two-week European vacation; and in 2012 the Internal Revenue Service revoked NARTH’s nonprofit status for not properly filing its paperwork.

Paulk left Exodus in 2003. He cautions against “speaking for everybody,” but says in his more than two decades of watching people undergo ex-gay therapy, the “large majority” of people he met “did not change one iota.” Paulk remained silent for a decade, until he issued a formal apology last year. "I know that countless people were harmed by things I said and did in the past, " Paulk wrote in a statement. "I am truly, truly sorry for the pain I have caused.”

Peter LaBarbera Wants Ex-Gays On Fox, While Cliff Kincaid Wants Gays Out Of Conservative Movement

Appearing last week on the TV web show America’s Survival, Americans For Truth About Homosexuality president Peter LaBarbera attacked Modern Family and other TV shows for portraying gays as “the most noble” characters.

LaBarbera seemed to chide Modern Family both for including a gay couple and not focusing on the couple enough: “We see Modern Family where you’ve got two homosexual men raising an infant or a toddler like it’s nothing, like it’s nothing out of the ordinary. Of course, that’s intentional. They don’t even make that the main part of the show. This is manipulation. Americans are being manipulated on a daily basis by Big Hollywood and Big Media.”

LaBarbera also knocked Fox News for providing insufficient airtime for ex-gays. “When are we going to see a content, happy, ex-gay in a Hollywood movie?” he demanded.

“When is Sean Hannity, Megyn Kelly or Bill O’Reilly going to have an ex-gay on Fox?”

“Fox is promoting black conservatives, which is a good thing,” he added. “Why aren’t they promoting these politically incorrect people? Why have they never promoted ex-gays on Fox?”

Host Cliff Kincaid of Accuracy In Media, who last year demanded that CPAC hold a panel discussion on why gay people are “prone to violence, terror, and treason,” said that gay people or straight supporters of gay rights can’t be conservative.

After arguing that CNN host S.E. Cupp is “parading around and posing as a conservative,” Kincaid said that “you cannot be a conservative in the traditional sense and be a homosexual, you cannot be a conservative in the traditional sense and promote homosexual marriage and all these other libertine and left-wing causes.”

Co-host Jerry Kenney later said people should begin “referring to gay marriages as unnatural marriages,” but even that didn’t go far enough for LaBarbera.

“I don’t want to call it marriage,” he said. “You could look at a tree and call it a car, that doesn’t mean that’s a car.”

Anne Paulk Mocks 'Naive' Gays For Thinking God Won't Punish Them

Ex-gay activist Anne Paulk chatted today with Tim Wildmon and Ed Vitagliano of the American Family Association about her work promoting ex-gay therapy. Of course, neither Wildmon nor Vitagliano asked Paulk a single question about her ex-husband John Paulk, the one-time ex-gay leader and movement poster boy who recently recanted and said that he is still gay.

However, Paulk did hint at her former spouse’s announcement in the interview: “You’ve got an entire culture telling you that it’s not only okay to be gay, it’s okay to leave your opposite-gendered spouse and family and embrace a homosexual relationship, in fact we’ll celebrate you if you do that, you’ll be our hero. You’ve got an entire media system with Hollywood and everything else going, ‘Oh, gay people are the best.’”

Vitagliano added that “people who continually, serially have sex with other people, you lose the ability to bond with those people like— I’m not trying to be facetious — like duct tape that has been stuck and unstuck repeatedly, at some point it loses its ability to stick.”

Paulk also repeated her suggestion that sexually transmitted diseases represent divine punishment for same-sex relations.

“If you add in the commands of God and then if you violate them, there are consequences for them, natural consequences,” she said while discussing the transmission of HIV. “There are natural consequences to sin and if we hide our heads and pretend they are not there, they simply happen anyway, it’s just a matter of naivety on the part of the person who says, ‘Oh no, there’s nothing wrong with it.’ Of course there is, it bears witness in reality, which is Romans I.”

Bachmann's Ex-Gay Ally Says Satan Is Using Celebrities To Spread Gay 'Filth'

Janet Boynes, an ex-gay activist close with Michele Bachmann, appeared on The Steve Deace Show yesterday to share her story about “leaving homosexuality.” Boynes described the struggle to defeat gay rights as a spiritual battle against the demonic forces of evil, adding that Satan is trying to stop her ex-gay activism.

“There’s a spiritual conflict that is waging war around all of us and it’s a battle between forces, you’ve got good and evil and you’ve got light and darkness. You have to believe that it’s affecting my generation, it’s affecting our future and it’s affecting everybody all around the world whether you believe in same-sex marriage, homosexuality or you don’t believe in it,” she said.

“The enemy knows who we are and that we all are destined to greatness, and I pose a threat, those of us who have left this life and have walked out successfully — for me it’s been sixteen years — I pose a threat to his game plan so I always say the devil should’ve killed me when he had the chance and I’m a force to be reckoned with.”

She went on to chide Ellen DeGeneres, Anderson Cooper, Rachel Maddow, Don Lemon, Robin Roberts and Oprah Winfrey for “spreading the filth that homosexuality is not only relevant for today but these men and women were born that way, and that’s not so.”

After arguing that gay people should “leave [the church] alone because we’re not out there bothering them,” Boynes pointed to the fact that gay people want to overturn bans on marriage equality and have the freedom to marry as proof that they are “not comfortable in their own skin.”

I think the homosexual community put a big burden on the church. If you are comfortable with who you are, why would you even approach the church? Why don’t you just go on and live your life, enjoy living it and leave some of us alone because we’re not out there bothering them. Why are they trying to go to fifty states and have the marriage amendments changed? You know why, because they’re not comfortable with their own skin, they’re not comfortable with who they are.”
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